Q & A with Dina Shanae: Why NOW?

Welcome back to 17 & Married! First off, thank you all for the overwhelming love and support you've shown this week! When I launched 17 & Married, I had no idea what the response would be; your feedback has been invaluable! Thank you for being here.

Now, on to the tea! You shared your questions on the Gram, and I am here to answer them. I'll start with one, and continue answering you all this week!

  1. What made you start your blog NOW?

I have been writing for as long as I can remember. Short stories, poetry, songs, and even a novel that's coming soon. Writing has always been cathartic for me, but even more so since my divorce. Throughout the separation process, there were days that I could barely pull myself from my bed. Writing saved me. It was in those darkest months of my life that I was reborn.

My writing was the one thing that I had before. Before I was someone's mother and some man's wife. It has always been distinctly me. And unlike the rest of my life, I didn't have to unravel it from B. He hadn't been a part of that side of me, so going back to it felt like returning home.

But why the blog? Well, I've never met anyone with my story, but I know that there are people out there who can relate. Women who are stuck in situations where they've lost themselves. Men who hold the pressure of others' expectations on their shoulders, trying not to let anyone down. From my wild teenage years, spent reacting to trauma, to my hurried engagement and marriage. I've lived a life that has given me a unique perspective that I want to share with the world.

Why NOW? Because I couldn't wait any longer. I have been planning, and talking, and thinking, and wanting for the past two years. But I woke up Saturday morning (Jan. 30, 2021), and I had this burning compulsion to make things happen! My brain and body were in alignment; all gas, no brakes. I had to start this work. No more putting off. Procrastination has always been a struggle for me. But everything in me said: the time is NOW!

A couple of weeks ago, a friend of mine passed away. She was thirty years old. She had dreams, goals, and plans! She was one of the most beautiful souls I've met. And she's gone. She will never get to turn those plans into a reality now, but I can. I'm here. God has given me another day on this earth to make my dreams into a reality, and that's what I intend to do.


I am really excited to answer the second question. It's one that can be answered quite simply.

Are you happy or just navigating?

I look forward to getting into it in our next session. See you soon loves!

Stay blessed,


Dina Shanae

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